Saturday, May 16, 2009

Why is Denying Same-Sex Marriage Egotistical?

This is an article I wrote that is currently ranked #1 on the writer's Website, Helium.com.

As children, we all go through a phase where it's difficult to share our toys. We are even less likely to share with someone we don't know. Our little developing ego says "this is mine and someone else may ruin it, especially a stranger who I don't understand" Fear tells us that relinquishing the desired object may put it in harms way. Most of us eventually outgrow that selfish phase as we begin to understand that when we share, we all benefit and we arrive at the conclusion that our ego is often a master manipulator with only selfish intent.

The political attempt by right-wing conservatives to protect marriage by denying equality to gay couples proves that some people simply never grew up. This rabid attempt to somehow try and protect traditional values by denying same-sex couples equal rights has sent a rift of contention between brothers, sisters, mothers, fathers, friends and clergy with no one winning anything of value, and many losing the peace that once existed within families and communities. It appears that those who have launched this all-out attack never learned the basic premise of the advice from the Master Jesus Christ: Do unto others as you would have them do unto you, and Love your neighbor as yourself. The piety and self-righteousness required to be involved in this blatant discrimination seems to me to be the ultimate example of egotism. And yet, those trying to hoard marriage for themselves are supposed to be the religious ones, the ones who have the greatest connection to the Master who spoke those words.

Why is it then that they have found justification to selfishly monopolize the word marriage for themselves, while launching an all-out attack on tax paying and law abiding citizens who simply want to be treated as equal in the eyes of the law and society? My fight as a straight woman for equality has uncovered the most irrational and twisted ideology by those purporting to protect traditional values. What they don't seem to get is that the side-affect of their actions has serious and hurtful consequences, and in reality, their victory helps no one. So what's the real purpose behind this divisive legislation?

For that answer you have to dig deep into the spell that religion has some followers under. When our beliefs are not scrutinized and we simply accept without getting some kind of empirical evidence to support them, we are in danger of following blindly and arriving at our conclusions (what we believe to be true) based on a faulty formula. If we are told by those we are following what the formula is for arriving at truth, and we never question that, how do we really know it's the truth? And those keeping us in the dark often have an agenda that serves to create a survival of the fittest environment with only those sharing the same ideologies being supported - all others are being cast to the wind.

Truth has a path in the here and now and can be arrived at through critical thinking and through the process of elimination. If we don't question or research our own set of beliefs and simply accept them as gospel, it's highly possible that we are missing an entire universe which could bring greater joy and abundance to us than we ever thought possible. But don't take my word for it, test this idea for yourselves.

Allowing same-gender couples the right to legally marry is a win-win situation. There is no evidence anywhere to suggest that the marriage of same-sex couples will hurt anything or anyone. In fact, if you look throughout history the greatest atrocities known to man occurred because of selfishness and intolerance toward those who were different or didn't agree with the majority, i.e. the crusades, the holocaust, the witch trials, slavery, women's suffrage, etc. In contrast, where gay marriage is supported and their families are honored, the entire community thrives

As our society works through this current battle of whether or not to allow same-sex couples the right to legally marry, I hope it becomes apparent to more of those who have found themselves on the wrong side of history, that it's time to grow up and share marriage. Doing so will bring about a new found peace and will usher in the next step in the evolution of our society. It will raise our consciousness closer to that of the great Masters who taught nothing but love and compassion. For the greatest healing that can occur within each of us is when we feel loved and respected by others. This divisive path of excluding and attacking the gay community is creating a state of chaos and darkness which serves to keep us blind. Only through tolerance for those whose beliefs differ from our own can we arrive at a more peaceful planet where the famous words from the declaration of Independence are honored: We hold these truths to be self-evident, that all men are created equal, that they are endowed by their Creator with certain unalienable Rights, that among these are Life, Liberty and the pursuit of Happiness.

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